Forgiveness, Responsibility, Toxicity and Loss, Doing Good and Q&A
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This Week’s Contents
The Pursuit of Forgiveness and the Reputation Resiliency it Offers
(Red Diamonds Essays)
“We are responsible not only for what we do but also for what we could have prevented.”
(Expertise: Peter Singer)
Worst ‘Toxic Leadership’ in 20 Years Costs Leader Her Status and Rewards
(Expertise: Gene Moran)
“This is what you deserve. You could be good today. But instead you choose tomorrow.”
(Marcus Aurelius)
“Can you help me?”
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Do you know what is often missing in people’s attempts, personally and professionally, to restore or rebuild reputation? The committed pursuit of forgiveness.
Too many people and organizations don’t care about seeking or doing what is required to be considered for forgiveness or they believe it’s unnecessary. They also might be insincere and uninspired in their efforts to be granted the gift.
Many more allow their egos to be so oversized that they won’t climb up the mountain of someone’s pain and anger to do all the necessary, possible conflict repairs. That comes with a high cost, whether it’s recognized or not (and it often isn’t).
Here’s why a change in mindset should be strongly considered:
The Pursuit of Forgiveness and the Reputation Resiliency it Offers
“We are responsible not only for what we do but also for what we could have prevented.”
Peter Singer
Do we consider what Singer has said when we are thinking about what responsibilities are calling us and which ones we don’t believe we own?
Singer converses about the idea and conviction in this Red Diamonds Features piece:
What is Often not Considered When it Comes to Responsibility
Or read it also published on LinkedIn:
What is Often not Considered When it Comes to Responsibility
Poisonous leadership doesn’t just badly hurt a culture and its people, it can do the same to the leader themselves. Costs can be paid without a leader realizing it and risks are always increasing to where those dangers eventually hit a tipping point. When that happens, it’s a avalanche of destruction.
Gene Moran, founder and president of Capitol Integration and a former military leader, talks about it in this Red Diamonds Features article:
Worst ‘Toxic Leadership’ in 20 Years Costs Leader Her Status and Rewards
Or if you prefer to read it on LinkedIn:
Worst ‘Toxic Leadership’ in 20 Years Costs Leader Her Status and Rewards
“This is what you deserve. You could be good today. But instead you choose tomorrow.”
Marcus Aurelius
Tomorrow often seems like a good idea, doesn’t it? When we’re intellectually honest, we know that belief isn’t always the best decision or even a better one.
Reality is it can prove to be a big loss, as we sometimes painfully discover.
This short Red Diamonds Essays piece talks about it:
Choosing ‘Good’ Tomorrow is a Loss Today to You and Others
Have a question you’d like answered in this newsletter about the topics (see header) it covers? Write RedDiamondsNews@Gmail.com.
Jerry Tran asks: “What is the best lesson someone else taught you about managing your reputation?”
Hi Jerry,
Mike Mooney wrote Reputation Shift. In an article where he was interviewed, he talked about the wisdom and necessity of having a “spotter” in your life.
A spotter is someone you can trust, who has your best interests in mind, who will tell you what you’re not seeing when you are straying off course or are making dangerous decisions.
Ray Dalio of Bridgewater Associates isn’t talking about reputation when he advises seeking out credible people to disagree with you and determine their reasoning and how they came to their conclusion, yet to me it’s a similar protective idea and mindset.
Smart question you asked.
Michael
Michael Toebe is a specialist for reputation, professional relationships communication and wiser crisis management. He writes, edits and publishes the weekly Red Diamonds Newsletter as well as Red Diamonds Features and Red Diamonds Essays (all on Medium).
Contact: RedDiamondsMedia@Gmail.com
Twitter: ReputationExtra
Until next week…
“In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.”
Albert Einstein
and
“There’s a way of doing it better — find it.”
Thomas Edison
